Scenarios
Another team's engineer is the only person who can unblock you, and
their backlog is full. What would you do — escalate to their lead to
have it prioritized, or find out what their team is currently measured
on and whether your request can be framed as helping with that?
You're running a cross-functional project where three of the five
contributors report elsewhere. One has quietly stopped attending. What
would you do — raise the attendance issue with their manager, or ask
them directly what changed and whether the project still makes sense
from where they sit?
You believe a decision that's already been made is wrong, and it was
made two levels above you. What would you do — argue that it's wrong,
or find out what the decision was optimizing for and whether you can
show a route that serves that same goal better?
Takeaway
- Find out what the person you need is actually measured on, and connect
your request to it. If you can't, you're asking for a favor — ask for
it as one.
- Trade. Offer something they value: cover, information, a dependency
removed, credit in front of the right person.
- Ask "what would have to be true for this to move up your list?"
instead of asking again more urgently.
- Go to someone's manager only after you've asked them directly, and
tell them you're going to. Surprise escalation buys one outcome and
costs every future one.
- Distinguish who has to agree from who has to not object. They're
different lists, and treating the second like the first is how things
stall forever.